With all of the billions of the people in the world, finding true love can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. So when you find that special someone, and you lose them, it can feel like the world is crumbling down around you.
Don’t give up!
You can get your ex back and feel that love once again. But how can you do it? For some reason, he or she decided that the relationship wasn’t just right. While it may feel like it is your fault, it isn’t. It takes two people to have a relationship and both sides have the ability to make the relationship work.
The key to winning back the love of your ex is to sit down and carefully examine your relationship. What went wrong? This will be a painful process, but in order to move forward, you need to examine the past.
In nearly every relationship, you will find your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend saying the same things to you over and over. They may be big things, like how you need to contribute more to housework, or small things, like you leave your wet towel on the bathroom floor. When someone is feeling frustrated and unloved, both the big and the small things can add up to become a giant invisible wall. Write down all of the complaints that your significant other had, and take a few minutes to think about them.
Now, think back to why you fell in love with your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. Why do you want to get your ex back? On a new page, write down all of the things, big and small, that made your relationship special and unique. From your first kiss, to watching a beautiful sunset, to just watching movies on the couch together all snuggled up. All of the moments that make you smile, write them down. This is what you will use to win back your ex.
Many relationships end because one party does not feel like he/she is being heard and appreciated. Maybe you were busy at work, had family issues, or something else that was occupying your mind. Because you felt secure in your relationship, you let the complaints of your significant other go aside because you thought that they would always be there for you.
Since your ex may not want to talk to you, it is time to sit down and write them an email. This letter should be no more than 500 words, and should accomplish several things. You first need to acknowledge that your loved one was hurt, and that they are likely still in pain. Discuss the key points where your relationship broke down, and apologize for your role in them.
Next, talk about the top five reasons why your relationship is worth saving. While you may want to go on for pages and pages, keep this first email short. You need to break through to your ex with this initial contact, so it needs to be powerful yet not overwhelming. Forget the roses, ditch the chocolates, and certainly don’t send any singing telegrams. While these things may be nice, they are just that, things. Your words are the key to winning back your ex, so be open, be confident, and be willing to work towards rebuilding your relationship for the future.