I get emails from women every day telling me that even when things are generally going well in their relationship, they still catch themselves feeling uneasy, over-thinking things and analyzing their man’s every move at times – which seems to do the OPPOSITE of bring him close, it actually pushes the man further away on a very deep, subconscious level.
Women always ask me if men can tell when we analyze their words and actions or try to “figure them out” – and they want to know how to stop doing this so they can get back to feeling normal again.
I believe men can absolutely tell when we’re too focused on them because it comes out in our vibe. Whether it’s in the tone of our voice or the energy behind how we respond to text messages – men are extremely sensitive to this and pick up on it subconsciously.
Analyzing everything a man says or does (or DOESN’T say or do) is MENTALLY leaning forward – and what you want to do instead is lean back and inspire him to come close to YOU.
That’s what will build a deep attraction with a man – since men value what they have to work for, just like we do!
If you’re having a hard time staying “cool” because you’re over-thinking things or trying to figure a man out, think of what a supremely confident women would do and feel in this situation – the kind of woman that men go crazy for.
That kind of woman wouldn’t care so much about what he’s saying, doing or not doing – since her focus would be on her own life, she wouldn’t even be thinking about a man who’s not right in front of her. In her mind, it’s up to the man to impress HER and win her over.
Taking your focus completely OFF of a man is what creates the space for him to come towards you.
If a man’s energy isn’t coming towards you, what you want to do is pull your energy OFF of him. In order to do that, you’re going to have to find some other things to do that will completely absorb you and occupy your time, energy, and attention.
See if you can “channel” that super confident woman inside of you when you catch yourself getting too focused on a man. This will make you unbelievably attractive to him – and cause him to instinctively want to more TOWARDS you. I know you have that energy somewhere inside of you because that’s what likely attracted him (and other men) in the first place!