He stopped calling after sex. At first you just assumed he was busy but it’s been days or weeks now and it’s obvious that his silence is directly related to the fact that you slept with him. You’re confused about what happened though. Before you two were intimate he was all over you and couldn’t seem to get enough of you. Now that you two slept together it’s as though he’s dropped off the face of the earth. It’s disheartening when this happens to a woman. You’re probably wondering what you did wrong and if there’s anything you can do now to change things.
The fact is if you’re dating a guy and he suddenly stops calling after sex you’re right to fear the worst. This typically happens because intimacy happened soon after the couple started dating. It’s sometimes hard to temper your desire when you meet a man who sweeps you off your feet. If you two go on a couple of dates and the sparks are flying it’s natural to want to share more of yourself with him.
What happens is that when a woman becomes intimate soon after meeting a man, he labels her and it’s not the kind of label you ever want to wear. He’ll brand you as being too easy or too quick to share your body. It doesn’t matter if it was the first time you slept with a man so soon after meeting and it doesn’t matter to him that he slept with you just as soon. What happens in the mind of a man when a woman is intimate with him too early is that he sees it as an unappealing character habit and he jumps to the incorrect conclusion that she’s having sex with every man she dates soon after they’ve met.
All hope isn’t lost if he has stopped calling after sex. You can still save the relationship if that’s what you want. You just have to shift the dynamic and guide him to see that there’s a lot more to you than the one dimensional person he thinks he met. Call the man in question up and chat with him. Don’t bring up the intimacy issue at all. Instead, focus on anything else including work, the weather and any good books he may have read lately. Invite him out for dinner and show him that you’re an interesting, honest and fun person outside of intimate situations. If you do this, he’ll recognize that there’s a lot more to you than he first realized and the relationship will be back on a more balanced path.