Get Him Back – The Big Problem With The No Contact Rule

Are you broken up with the love of your life and you have heard that the no contact rule is the way to go if you want to get him back? Is it driving you crazy trying to abide by the no contact rule? You miss him and want him and just wish that all of this was over and done with and you could just get back to being in love again. You want to hear the sound of his voice and connect with him again but you are willing to go by the rules that say that you can’t contact your ex.

The big problem with the no contact rule is that often it can be perceived by your ex is being passive aggressive behavior. Your ex might mistake your silence and avoiding him as being a way to show your anger towards him and the breakup without actually doing anything. While this might seem like a great idea, it might actually drive him further away and push him into the arms of another woman if you aren’t careful.

Yes, the no contact rule is a great tool or guideline for you to follow if you are tempted to want to contact him endlessly to try to work things out. If you find yourself wanting to talk on and on needlessly about the breakup or asking him to tell you what you did to cause the breakup then using the no contact rule for a while is a good idea.

So many experts take this stuff way too far though and you should know that the no contract rule is just one aspect of any successful plan to get your ex back. It is not nor should it be an entire plan to help you get your man back. By doing absolutely nothing you will gain nothing and if you ever do wind up bumping into your ex again you aren’t going to know what to say or do to get him back. That isn’t the time to be flying by the seat of your pants and you better have some sort of game plan before that day comes, don’t you think?

You see, without a game plan and without knowing what you need to say and do to get your ex back you will probably fall back into old patterns of behavior and you will be right back where you started before. You need to know how to break down that wall that your ex has built around his heart and know what to say to make him think twice about breaking up with you. You need to know what causes a guy to change his mind and what moves a man emotionally to fixate upon you and you alone again.

Once you put a little time between your breakup and the day you do make contact with him again and armed with ways to open his heart and move him emotionally you have a winning plan. Without a plan you are just wishing on a hope and a dream and you just might be pushing him into the arms of another woman instead of doing what is necessary to get him back.

Source by Cory Jean