It all seems bleak. He has broken up with you and you want to get him back, but you don’t know how to make that happen. You have heard the experts’ advice and you have listened to your friends, but you are still confused as to what your next step should be. Should you call him, cry on his shoulder, beg or keep your distance? Please don’t.
First, you always want to allow your partner the right to exercise free will. You never want to put yourself in the position of trying to coerce your man into getting back together with you. It is important that he wants to reconcile as well. Otherwise he will just bide his time until someone else comes along or he gets tired of you.
Sometimes you have to let him go in order to get him back. That means you accept that the relationship is over and you move on with your life. Letting go does not mean you no longer love him, it means you understand that you both need to want the relationship to move forward in order for it to work. When he is pulling back and hesitant about the relationship, you need to do the same.
He is not calling? Make sure you do not call, or text, or get in his face in any way. Let it be. If there is any chance at all of getting him back, it will happen when you restrain from doing the obvious. Some men enjoy it when you fall apart and confess your undying love. They think: “I got her, what else is out there?” Men enjoy chasing and conquering and your man may have become a little too comfortable.
So do the unexpected, let him go and see if he will return, and if he doesn’t, like the saying goes: He wasn’t yours to begin with, or you can’t lose what you don’t have. Cliché, I know, but there’s a lot of truth in those sayings.
Letting go is hard, you want to be with him and share your life with him as you did in the past. But that only works if he wants it too. If he is mad over some incident, he will get over it and come back to you, but only if he cares enough and that’s what you want. You want him to care enough to walk back into your life.
Yes, you can get him back. He loved you once, he can love you again. It is not hopeless; you just need to know what to do, and what not to do. You have the first step: No Contact.